HS #128 2026.3.12
Lowering Expectations: Living in a Fallen World
It happens all the time. Someone hits a ball (volleyball, pickleball, tennis – any sport with a boundary line) and it’s not clear whether it landed in or missed. So the teams agree to replay it. The repeat clearly misses, and then someone announces, “First one must have missed.” I counter, “No, it must have landed in – after all, we live in a fallen world.”
Many tacitly assume the world is inherently just and good. We are disappointed when it doesn’t work out that way. But, especially if you grew up in the Roman Catholic or Calvinistic tradition, you have been taught since a child that the world is fallen. Why then don’t we acknowledge it?
When I first came to Hope College in 1988, the provost distributed a memo to the faculty about academic integrity. It began with the question: Why do some students cheat? As a naïve newcomer, I replied, “Given the theological foundation of this institution, shouldn’t we instead ask, “Why are some students honest?” As a result of this perceptive comment, I was invited to serve on a committee. Oh well, we live in a fallen world.
Do you remember the scene from the first Indiana Jones movie where Jones, in a hurry to save the girl, doesn’t have time for a manly fight with the swordsman? So Jones shoots him. The surprise is humorous, because we expected Jones to behave justly and fairly.
Why are (liberally-minded) Americans so exasperated with our current President? Because we assume we live in a world where the big kid on the playground uses his strength to defend the weak and promote justice. But any elementary gym teacher will tell you that the big kid is often the bully – using his size for his own selfish interest. Why should politicians and world leaders be different? Why should our President’s attempts to acquire Canada, Greenland, Venezuelan oil, and Gazan beachfront stun us? I’m not condoning; just asking, “Why the surprise?”
Ironically, accepting that we are in a fallen world can lead to better living. C.S. Lewis explained it this way: Two men are confined for a month in a poor-quality hotel. One has been told he was going to a 5-star suite. The second was told he was going to prison. Which will be more satisfied?
Indeed, being content comes from lowering expectations.
Let’s dig deeper. Consider this (morbid) scenario: You have been kidnapped by terrorists and shown a revolver. You are told that in two weeks one of the six chambers will be loaded with a bullet, the cylinder will be spun then pointed at you and shot. Get the idea?
The second scenario is similar except now five of the chambers are loaded with bullets.
My question: Which scenario would be more distressing? I’m not asking which you would choose; I’m asking which would cause more distress?
I’m convinced that I’d be more distressed by the first – with just one bullet. Why? Because if five bullets, I would accept my likely fate, but would FOCUS on the HOPE that I may survive. With one bullet, my focus instead would be on the unlikely event that I am shot, causing distress. Perhaps this is why atheists fear death less than the moderately religious - because they have accepted and come to terms with the reality of no afterlife. They live their lives with lowered expectations.
One way of lowering expectations is by realizing that we are not special. Some teachers tell their students, “If only one of you is helped, it will all be worth it.” Each student feels affirmed because they think they are that one exception. (Likely the same reason folks spend money on lotteries. They think they are uniquely destined to win.) Wanting students to have sober judgement that they are not special, I instead explain that, “I have higher standards - if all but one of you are helped, it will be worth it.” It gets a laugh.
Shall we end with the wisdom of Jesus? He commended the deceitful servant who, fired by his master, reduced the debts of his master’s debtors so that he would have obliging friends once he was out of work, making the best of a bad situation.
Indeed, Jesus exhorted his disciples to have realistic expectations of human behavior and thus to be as wise as serpents - while as innocent as doves. How better to live successfully in a fallen world?