HS # 17
2016.12.6
Living with the unexpected
Several years ago, I was
having lunch at 8th Street Russ’ in Holland. A teenage boy was busy
clearing the tables, and across the isle from me several 40-something aged
women got up to leave. One of them nodded to the table-clearer and said, “We’ve
leaving, you can clear our table now.”
He looked back with an expression of, “What’s your problem?” Seeing his expression, she repeated – a bit
more emphatically, “We’re done here – you can clean off our table.” By this time her behavior had attracted my
attention and that of several others. Noticing our quiet disapproval, she gave
a quick head-point towards the young man, smiled, and explained, “That’s my
son.”
As I broke into a chuckle, it
occurred to me what a difference an explanation can make. Somehow I imagined this typical teenager going
through his 16 years giving grudging help at best. Had he ever cleared a table
at home? Who knows – but his mother was certainly taking delight in seeing him
do it now. What fun.
What is it about the
unexpected that often causes us to break out in laughter?
Once when walking through the
Hope College Student Union, I overheard a custodian confront a student who had his
feet up on the coffee table, “Do you put your feet on your coffee table at
home?” “Huh? Yes - - I do.” “Well, you’re not at home, so get them off!”
Quick thinking – caught me by
surprise, and likely the student as well.
Or there was the time when I
was having lunch with a couple professor friends in the Hope Kletz. We were
discussing my faithful canine companion, Elvis.
The conversation ranged from whether I was careful to pick up after him
on campus to whether dogs might join us in heaven. Getting up to leave, sociology professor Don
Luidens explained that he regretted leaving this discussion of scatology and
eschatology.
I still take delight in that
quick-witted association.
Indeed, why do we laugh at the
unexpected – especially when it is at our own expense?
I once had a calculus student
come to my office for help. I spent 90 minutes thoroughly explaining the
material and carefully answering his questions. Upon leaving, he gratefully
acknowledged my help, “Thanks anyway.”
Another time I was talking
with my fellow math professor, John Van Iwaarden, after the Hope College graduation
ceremony. A math student who we had both
taught in several classes approached us, grabbed John’s hand, and pumping it
vigorously, enthused “Thank you for being such a great teacher! It was so easy
to learn from you.” Then turning to
leave, he noticed me and stuck out his hand, “Goodbye.”
Then also, the unexpected
humor can come from good intentions.
Several years ago I
mistakenly gave Elvis a ham bone to enjoy. Not a good idea. The bone splinters
into flakes and clogs up the digestive system.
Taking the vet’s advice, I put Elvis on the back porch with the door
propped open to the back yard, so that he could relieve himself as needed.
Feeling sorry for subjecting him to the frigid March temperatures, I bundled up
in a sleeping bag and several blankets and spent the night on the porch futon
to keep him company. After a chilly and restless night, I awoke to find him
nowhere in sight. He was neither on the porch nor outside.
Getting rather nervous I
glanced towards the door to the house and there he was – inside the house, cozy
and warm – smiling out at me. I found out later that after a trip outdoors, he
had gone to the front of the house (his usual entry point) and barked to be let
back in. My kind-hearted neighbor heard him, and gave him entry. I rather think he spent the night laughing at
me.
What is it that often makes
us laugh when surprised? Maybe it is a naturally developed defense mechanism,
maybe a gift from God. Whatever the case, humor is a salve that enables us to accommodate
the unexpected in our lives – especially when it is consequential and
far-reaching. As was said by others
wiser than I, “The world is a tragedy to those who feel, but a comedy to those
who think.” “There is a thin line that separates laughter and pain, comedy and
tragedy, humor and hurt.“
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